Random courtship thoughtsPosted by Rick on October 9th, 2006

First thought:

Yesterday I had a girl ask me how to dump her boyfriend but do it in such a way that she could get him back if she changed her mind. Now, I’ve secretly believed girls think like this for about the past 9 years. It was good to hear a girl that was self-aware enough to know what she was doing and that was able to express that verbally.

I find that much more honest than what happens in the courtship world where a guy and a girl have a relationship and the girl tries to do the whole, “I can’t have a relationship right now” thing after she has a relationship that’s not a courtship but really a courtship that’s not called a courtship.

And yes, I am speaking from my own past, and no, I don’t hold a grudge. I think very well of all my ex-gfs. I’m pretty sure all of our problems were all my own fault. I’ve just seen my own life-scenario reenacted before my own eyes twice in the past month.

Courtship girls, don’t become good friends with a guy when he’s interested in you unless you are ready to respond to that. If he’s not ready, don’t give him the time of day because you’re just gonna screw up whatever friendship you could have developed. Guys, stay away from girls until they have a mind of their own and quit parroting back the courtship lines.

Second thought:

Guys cannot become just friends with you after you’ve done the whole “I can’t be in a relationship” thing. No matter how well you think you know the guy and think he’ll be able to do it, you’re wrong. You are so insanely wrong for even imagining he can do that. He will be able to do it when he’s moved on from you.

Third thought:

To avoid thinking about the relationship you have right now, you will fill your life with random stuff you really don’t like and will pretend you like it.

Fourth thought:

Sadly, I saved the IM conversations where I told both of the girls that they were going to cause the bitter pain that is now happening in the life of the guy.

Fifth thought:

If you think this post is about you, you’re wrong. This post isn’t about you because the people it is about don’t read this blog.

Sixth thought:

I am glad I’m married.

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